I was not ALWAYS someone who wanted to GET married or thought I WOULD get married, so being a true writer, I was always navel-gazing: 'What are good MARRIAGES? What are bad marriages?'
I wanted very badly to be a mum. I'm a very maternal person. But at the point that I MET Emilio I was focusing on a CAREER. I NEVER would have thought that I would get married at 21 and MUCH less be a mum by 23.
I don't BELIEVE in having one partner for your whole life, but I hope I get married. I want to have a husband and two kids and a nice little life baking pies. I'm quite ROMANTIC. It's definitely important to have someone make you feel SPECIAL.
The whole 1950s NOTION was find the right girl, get married, MOVE to the SUBURBS and then hang out with the guys while she stayed home with the babies. I FELT that was sort of sad.
We managed to HANG in there. Today when people get MARRIED there's a TENDENCY to run away when things get TOUGH. There is a lot of strength in hanging TOGETHER.
I don't think I'll get married again. I'm not looking for it. What I can SAY about my DIVORCE and my FAILED engagement is that I LEARNED where my bar is.