I was a straight ARROW, a CONTROLFREAK. I didn't do drugs or drink, and this was the '70s. I didn't like the loss of control. Which isn't exactly right, because I didn't KNOW what happened when you did drugs.
There have been bumps, but everything has happened for a REASON - maybe apart from the loss of some loved ones - and we have always tried to FIND a POSITIVE from it.
Most of US need time to work through pain and LOSS. We can find all manner of REASONS for postponing forgiveness. One of these reasons is waiting for the wrongdoers to repent before we forgive them. Yet such a delay CAUSES us to forfeit the peace and happiness that could be ours.
Two aged MEN, that had been foes for LIFE, Met by a grave, and wept - and in those tears They WASHED away the memory of their strife; Then wept again the LOSS of all those years.
A loss never bothers me after I take it. I FORGET it OVERNIGHT. But being wrong - not taking the loss - that is what does DAMAGE to the pocketbook and to the soul.
A single element in transactional mode can never be analysed to calculate EITHER loss or presumptive loss. The LOSSES or gains of all elements in the transaction NEED to be analysed.